Friday, March 13, 2009

Attraction Parenting

What Is "Attraction Parenting"? Attraction Parenting is based on a simple premise: Mother Nature intended parenting to be FUN! Our experience of *pleasure* is nature's way of guiding us toward choices that support the survival, growth, and evolution of humankind, both physically and spiritually. Although many aspects of our culture tend to confuse our instincts, our deeper nature is to be *attracted* to that which is good for us and our children. Obviously nature uses *physical* pleasure to make procreation attractive, but there are subtler forms of pleasure that nature has harnessed as well. In parenting, the two most important attractors are the pleasure of *unconditional love* and the pleasure of *authentic power*. Unfortunately our culture distorts our understanding of love and power. We're led to believe that they're scarce resources — that we must *earn* love and *fight* for power. In the practice of Attraction Parenting, we identify and release those distortions and others, and we acquire skills and perspectives that allow us to harness the power of attraction according to nature's design: following our pleasure through parenthood. We understand that authentic pleasure cannot be gained at the expense of our children; nor does parental self-sacrifice give our children lasting pleasure. Attraction Parenting transforms adversarial parent-child relationships into joyful, loving, creative, empowering *partnerships*. Attraction Parenting integrates the psychological concept of attraction with the metaphysical *Law of Attraction* in a grounded, sensible way. It's a practical, holistic approach that honors the body, mind, emotions, and spirit of every child and parent. You will probably like Attraction Parenting if you like any of these authors' works: - Naomi Aldort (*Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves*) - Jan Hunt (*The Natural Child*) - Alfie Kohn (*Unconditional Parenting*) - Pam Leo (*Connection Parenting*) - Jean Liedloff (*The Continuum Concept*) - Gordon Neufeld (*Hold On to Your Kids*) - Joseph Chilton Pearce (*Magical Child*) - William & Martha Sears (*Attachment Parenting*) And self-help books by authors like... - Esther & Jerry Hicks (*Ask and It Is Given*) - Byron Katie (*Loving What Is*) - Eckhart Tolle (*A New Earth*) Perhaps most important is that Attraction Parenting is an *inside-out approach*. It doesn't tell parents what to do, but it helps parents connect with their authentic *Inner Guidance*. When parents feel connected, centered, and grounded, their children tend to move into a similar state of mind, and this leads to greater emotional stability and fewer difficult behaviors. The power of attraction eliminates the "need" for conventional, control-oriented, fear-based parenting. If you've resorted to coercive parenting tactics out of sheer frustration, the practice of Attraction Parenting will restore your faith in human nature. You will come to know with certainty that children are innately good, and their goodness can be fostered joyfully through unconditional love and creative partnership. Feel free to forward this message to your friends! (Please include this paragraph and everything above.) Copyright (c) 2009 by Scott Noelle

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